'Start with mediation' - Advice for London couples heading for divorce this year
Dozens of families across London sought help from National Family Mediation last January as separation put pressure on children, housing and finances
A leading family mediation charity says it is preparing for a sharp rise in enquiries this January, urging couples considering separation in the New Year to start with mediation before taking legal action.
NFM (National Family Mediation), the UK’s largest network of family mediators, says January is consistently one of its busiest month, as couples who have made the decision to separate over the Christmas period begin working out what happens next.
Last year, the charity received a total of 886 national enquiries in January alone, highlighting the scale of demand as families seek support with housing, finances and childcare arrangements following relationship breakdown.
In London, a total of 51 families reached out for support.
Sarah Hawkins, Chief Executive of NFM, said: “For many people, the decision to separate is made quietly over Christmas. January is when they need a plan.
“Mediation helps couples focus on solutions from the outset — how to manage living arrangements, money and parenting — rather than slipping straight into conflict.”
NFM says this January surge is likely to be particularly noticeable this year, as high mortgage rates and rising rents mean many separating couples are unable to afford an immediate move and must continue living together.
The charity also points to no-fault divorce, which has made it quicker to start divorce proceedings but does not resolve the practical issues families face once a relationship ends.
“Filing for divorce doesn’t sort out where children will live, who stays in the home or how finances are divided,” Sarah said. “That’s where mediation comes in. It allows couples to make those decisions together, calmly and with support.”
Mediation is often quicker, less stressful and more affordable than court proceedings, with help available through Legal Aid for eligible families and the Government’s £500 Family Mediation Voucher Scheme.
As Divorce Day approaches, NFM says it is increasing capacity to meet demand and encouraging couples to seek help early.
“Our message this January is simple,” Sarah added. “If separation is on the cards, start with mediation. It sets a healthier foundation for whatever comes next — especially for children.”
For more information, visit www.nfm.org.uk